For the woman who’s not afraid of dreaming big –
but is secretly terrified she’ll collapse under the weight of it all.
You’ve done the vision work.
You’ve written the goals.
You’ve sat in meditation and whispered your desires to the Universe.
But then – quietly, underneath it all – comes the second voice:
What if I can’t hold it?
What if I actually get the clients, the money, the visibility… and I crumble?
What if I lose it all because I never really deserved it in the first place?
If that’s you?
I want to tell you something right now that I wish someone had told me:
You’re not broken for having that fear.
You’re wise for having learned to brace.
But now it’s time to heal that reflex.
Because it’s not your dreams that are too big.
It’s your nervous system that’s still catching up.
🧠 It’s Not Just Fear – It’s Capacity Trauma
This fear you’re carrying ‒ the fear of success, of visibility, of finally being seen in your fullness ‒ it didn’t come from nowhere.
It came from a lifetime of learning that big emotions weren’t safe.
→ That shining made you a target.
→ That success came with strings.
→ That when you got to be “too much,” people pulled away.
So your body → brilliant and protective ← learned to associate expansion with pain.
And now?
Every time you edge closer to your next level, that same body wants to slam on the brakes.
Not because you’re unworthy.
Because you’re still trying to keep yourself safe.
🤍 You Were Never Meant to Hold It All Alone
Here’s the truth that might undo you (in the best way):
You were never meant to hold all of it by yourself.
That vision on your heart?
It wasn’t given to you as a test.
It’s an invitation.
Not to suffer through it.
Not to “prove” yourself worthy of it.
But to expand your capacity for holding joy, success, impact, and overflow ‒ in a way that feels nourishing, not depleting.
That’s not hustle.
That’s healing.
And it’s available to you now.
🌱 Capacity Can Be Grown
This isn’t about “toughening up.”
This isn’t about pushing through.
This is about learning how to stay.
To stay present when you feel exposed.
To stay open when the old patterns scream “shut it down.”
To stay rooted in your power even as it grows beyond anything you’ve held before.
You don’t need more confidence.
You need to feel safe in your own bigness.
💌 A Quiet Reframe
What if you’re not afraid of success…
You’re afraid of who you’ll have to become to hold it.
Here’s the truth:
You don’t have to become someone else.
You just have to become more you.
Not the shape-shifted version.
Not the performance.
Not the one built for approval.
But the version of you that knows:
I can hold what I desire.
I can grow without burning out.
I can receive without earning every breath.
I can lead without abandoning myself.
🔮 You’re Not Too Much for Your Life
Your desires aren’t delusional.
They’re divine. (Read that again.)
They were placed on your heart because you’re the one to hold them.
And if you’re not sure how to build that capacity yet?
That’s okay.
That’s what The Portal™ was built for.
Not just to help you manifest what you want…
But to help you feel safe receiving and sustaining it.
You don’t need to be ready.
You just need to be willing.
Your capacity is not fixed.
It expands with safety, practice, and support.
And that support?
It’s here now.
The Portal: Sacred Unraveling™ is open.
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With reverence and realness,
Coach Shannon
Spiritual Business Alchemist & Business + Money Energetics Coach
P.S.
You’re not stuck.
You’re not behind.
And you’re not losing your edge.
You’re a midlife woman whose intuition has outgrown the conditioning that once kept you safe.
The second-guessing you feel isn’t weakness.
It’s your nervous system standing at the edge of a new identity ‒ one that refuses to keep shrinking, silencing, or betraying herself to belong.
Most women are taught to override this moment.
To “be more confident.”
To “push through the fear.”
To talk themselves back into what’s familiar.
That’s not the work I do.
I work with women who are done performing empowerment and ready to repattern power at the level where it actually lives ‒ the subconscious, the nervous system, the body.
Because you can’t think your way out of conditioning you survived.
And you can’t lead authentically while your system still believes silence equals safety.
This work isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about making it safe to be who you already are ‒ without abandoning yourself in the process.
If something in you relaxed while reading this,
that’s not coincidence.
It’s recognition.
I’m not here to convince you.
I’m here to meet you when your body says yes.
When you’re ready, the space is open.
Book a 30-minute Abundance Awakening Session™ or hit me up in the DMs over on Instagram @coachshannongraham
XO, Coach Shan
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